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5 opinions for Words of Courage

• Shari
  Oct 19, 2007 at 8:43 pm

  Hi. This is exactly how I have been trying to operate. I had to make major changes in my life after my husband passed away. Many of them have taken alot of courage to make. There were decisions that I had to make alone and it was pretty scarey at times. But I kept telling myself that I made it that day and I can do it again in the morning.

• Shelley
  Jul 21, 2008 at 7:13 pm

  I think you are right Shari, my mom had written a little saying that she lived by and had it in her bible bookmarking a favorite passage. When she passed away, I found it and have lived by it every since. I would love for you to remember it in your daily journey as well.

  “It is impossible to appreciate the beauty of the sunrise, without first waiting through the darkness”.

  I think that is so true about a lot of life in general. There are certainly dark days in all our lives, especially when you’ve lost a loved one, but it’s encouraging to know that if we can only wait through the darkness, we will see the beautiful sunrise on the other side.

  I hope this brings you some peace. I hope that you are doing better as I see it’s been some time since you posted. Give yourself time to grieve, to begin again, to take care of yourself, to know that you are in my prayers and to know that you are never, never alone. Shelley

• Anna
  Jul 24, 2008 at 1:53 am

  Shelley - what a wonderful phrase and it must have brought you great comfort. I appreciate your words, sometimes you forget that love brings pain but without love you don’t find happiness.
  I so appreciate it when people share their thoughts, together we will find the light at the end of the tunnel
  Love Anna

• Shelley
  Jul 24, 2008 at 1:41 pm

  Hi Anna, thanks so much. Yes, it did bring me lot’s of comfort to have my mom’s words written down like that. I refer to them almost daily in my own life! It’s funny, well not funny, but you know, here is a place for people who have lost a spouse, I am on a group that is for people who have lost a loved one and was involved in hospice, it’s been a place of strength and wisdom for me. No matter what I write or need to get off my chest, there is always someone there who has been there and who knows what I’m talking about. Just like you did when I posted about the beautiful comments you shared. Isn’t it a miracle, we all go in a circle….helping each other out, resting in the arms of each other, lifting each other up and being that light at the end of each tunnel for each other! I’m so blessed to have lived in this world. If I died today, I would have no regrets whatsoever. None! Thank you so much for responding. It was that little pick me up that I so needed today after a particularily horrible day. I appreciate it so. Thats what we are all on this earth for I believe anyway. Have a wonderful day! Shelley

• anna
  Jul 25, 2008 at 7:04 am

  Oh Shelley - no need to thank me as I understand, so understand the feeling. I think you are right life is a circle and death is something that will ultimately touch us all. To grieve you need to have loved and I know that I wouldn’t swap that feeling for the world…in truth, real grief should be never finding love in the first place. Do you know I wish that I could send out hugs…..words are wonderful, they help me….but a hug, well that is special. Thank you for being part of the community. Don’t know if you have seen what I am doing for Dad on August 12th but if any of your support group want to join in….that would be lovely
  http://www.widowsquest.com/how-i-will-honour-dads-memory/

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