Why is Death so Shocking?
I am travelling today and just pondering on why death is so shocking? After all it is the only certainty in life, we know it will happen, we know that nothing is for ever. Yet the shock is a huge part of the grief, as though we were just not built to deal with such strong feelings. For something that was bound to happen to us during our life, we don’t seem to be wired very well to cope with it…what do you think?
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5 opinions for Why is Death so Shocking?
J_e_R_y_L_e
Aug 9, 2007 at 2:17 am
death is shocking because most of the time, it comes unexpectedly… it will come, but most of us don’t know when…
Tiffany
Aug 9, 2007 at 5:13 pm
I think because we all think that it will never happen to someone we know. Like so many tragedies we think how horrible they are but could never imagine they could happen to us. And when they do we are shocked and upset (for lack of a better word) that it did.
anna
Aug 10, 2007 at 11:23 am
Tiffany great to hear from you again. You are absolutely right hwoever, I wonder why we don’t think it will happen as it is the one thing that in reality we definately know - that one day we will lose each other!
Hope you are well
Tiffany
Aug 10, 2007 at 11:48 am
I think it because like you said we are not “wired” for the pain that death brings. As I have found I to do fear death, I think that most don’t its the other end that always seams unexpected, the pain that loved ones feel. We expect death but I know when I lost my fiancé I never knew I could feel pain like that. I have experienced a lot of death in my family but the pain that I felt is something that no one can prepare you for.
I am doing better however some days and weeks are better then others. I try to take it one day at a time as that is all we can hope for. :)
tolive4ever
Aug 10, 2007 at 12:33 pm
Nobody can prepare you for the pain of lost dear one , even when we try to remeber them with obituaries and online memorials in memoriam of deceased -this not always helps
best regards
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