The Opportunity Behind the Pain
I was speaking to mum last night and was suddenly struck by much she is doing 
since the death of dad. She misses him hugely, and they were devoted to each other, that made her grief hard, the bereavement process was a long one for mum.
Yet when I hear her now - she still speaks about Dad on most phone calls - she is getting on with her life and doing things that she would never have done before. In the 4 years she has started to play bowls, using public transport to visit friends (she would never have done that before), she goes on 2 holidays a year, she has bought a treadmill, she made some many new friends, she has joined 3 clubs etc
This made me think - behind all the heartache, behind all the pain there is also opportunity. You would never want a death to occur of your partner but when it happens, it opens up new doors that you never saw, or would never have gone through as a couple. For all the pain, there is an opportunity to live those personal dreams that you have always had…by living the opportunity, the irony is that it can ease the pain.
She is a role model, she is my mum….
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2 opinions for The Opportunity Behind the Pain
Elaine Williams
Mar 3, 2008 at 2:08 pm
It is so true! Your mom is a brave soul, as are many who have lost a loved one. The myriad paths that open before us after loss…..when we head down these different roads, we have no clue what will be open before us. It takes courage to traverse these trails alone — courage and a willingness to live again.
Anna Farmery
Mar 6, 2008 at 2:37 am
Elaine - so true and I am proud of how mum is making the best of her life. She may feel something is still missing but she has also found new areas of happiness. I will pass on your comment to her, as she often doesn’t realise how much progress she is making…you see today you have made someone’s day
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