The Circle of Losing Control
I was having one of those self reflection moments, remembering the good times - I am sure you know the kind of thing.
It made me think how what goes around, comes around.
As a child you don’t feel totally not in control, you rely on parents.
As an adolesence you gain control over your life and feel self confident.
You then fall in love - your first boyfriend - and you lose all emotional control and feel vulnerable.
You break up and don’t imagine that you will ever get over it, your emotions are high and you don’t seem to be able to control it.
You fall in love and marry, again at first you feel vulnerable and losing a degree of control.
As you grow together you grow in self confidence and feel less vulnerable. Emotionally you feel in control.
Then you lose your partner - vulnerability and a sense of lack of control both of events and emotions takes over.
The good news is that can you see the cycle…..the next step is regaining the control and self confidence, we have done it many times in the past and we can do it again!
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