My Thoughts on Closure
Yesterday, I published an e-mail from a reader that really pulled at my heart strings. I wanted to think about my reply as I understand how the pain of someone dying really hurts and takes hold of your soul. Here are my thoughts Tiffany:
- You do need to find closure. When my dad died it was difficult as my mum kept his ashes. What I did was think of a place that was special to just him and me. I now visit there whenever I need to talk to him. I can feel his presence.
- I would think about writing a letter and saying goodbye to Josh. Write from the heart and then go to that special place and read it to him.
- In the letter say that you love him, you miss him and that he will always be in your heart. But the time has come to say goodbye and move on with your life. You know that he would want you to find happiness and that time has come.
- Do something that you have always wanted to do - a dream. Be it a vacation, studying, buying something…something that marks to yourself that this is the start of a different chapter of your life.
- Put the momento’s in a box, somewhere you can get to them easily if you need to but put the memories out of your every day life. It is like putting a lid on that chapter.
- Speak positively to others saying how hard that it will be , but that you know it is time to move on and join in more
I know all these seem hard or stark but you need to do it. You need to say goodbye. You can talk to his parents and say you are going to write the letter…do they want to join you.
I hope this helps…..and use this blog to tell us of your progress. How you say goodbye, what you are going to do in a positive way and let us support you through.
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