I am worrying about my mum
This weekend saw another death in my extended family and this week sees mum going to the doctors for her heart condition. With losing dad over 3 years ago, it scares me that I may lose mum. When you have faced grief so vividly, you know what it feels like to lose someone. You know how empty you feel. Mum is 76 and in general looks great for her age. It is even more ironic when all my life I have not been a worrier, always thinking whattever will be, will be.
Maybe it is a sign that I am getting older, maybe it is a sign that I realise now that life can so easily be taken away. Do you worry more now that you have felt the hurt of grief?
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3 opinions for I am worrying about my mum
Anne
May 1, 2007 at 1:46 pm
Grief has an effect on us and each one of us takes his/her own journey through that valley.people often say they feel so alone, and letting them see that they are surrounded by family ( who also grieve in their own way), is empowering. Emotions are raw and when someone dies in our family it reminds us that we are mortal and makes many anxious. It is a normal human reaction to go through shock, pain of separation, depression and gradually up towards adjusting to life without that person in it. The people we love, our family and those who have died, will still be part of our history, they shared a path with us and we can keep them in our hearts and remember those times with fondness. When did you last tell your Mum you love her. Now may be a good time……..
anna
May 2, 2007 at 5:14 am
Anne, what wonderful words and I 100% agree. When Dad died I started telling mum that I loved her more, the strange thing is that she responded after never saying it before. It has helped our relationship so much, and now seeing her vulnerability makes losing her even harder!
Anne
May 2, 2007 at 5:25 am
None of us want to be vulnerable. I have been lucky that at 43 I got a glimpse of it through a disability. It is also a time of grieving for what has been, what could have been ( expectations). My parents do not like to plan for the future now as it means a decline in health, but time spent with them, asking them what they would like to do with the time we have together has been a worthwhile experience. It has helped me through their answers about my personal history and it has helped them to finalise anything they need to say and do. In many ways it has prepared the journey….I feel very privileged in that way. I know that together we spend each day as if it were our last so that when our last day comes, there will be nothng outstanding.
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