How you have changed before and after grief
I was thinking about the time when we met, all those years ago….it made me think about how much I had changed during the relationship. I am not the same person now, than at the time I fell in love. Then grief changed me again. Actually if I take off the rose tinted glasses a minute both of us changed during the years together and indeed it caused some friction and problems. Of course our love ensured that we worked through and came out stronger.
But as I face life alone I realise that what I needed from a partner 20 years ago is not what I need now. I have changed and I am glad that I have….think about how you have changed throughout your life and what strengths you have now. Look at what you need, look at what is important to you before any life changing decisions including dating. Understanding yourself, and your needs for the future is very important in achieving happiness after bereavement.
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4 opinions for How you have changed before and after grief
Melisa
Sep 7, 2007 at 7:03 pm
I believe that your paragraph on how I have changed before and after grief was smart but I also believe for some of us…the after grief change in ourselves is not a pretty one. We would love to go back to being less senical and hard or tough but our lives have forced us to grow that way to survive every day as it comes. It is tough to believe in anything when your whole world just left and left you behind.
anna
Sep 9, 2007 at 10:51 am
I agree that it is tough and honestly I have been as low as anyone…I just know that if we don’t believe in anything, in a future we will find it harder to come through. Actually writing this blog was part of creating a future….helping others and it gave me a goal. Melisa….don’t you give up, there is a future
Lynne van Jaarsveld
Sep 13, 2007 at 4:57 am
My husband passed away during January 2007 and I find that the acceptance of his death gets easier every day but the longing for my soul mate hurts and this I cannot accept. We were married for 30 years.
Amie
Sep 13, 2007 at 3:54 pm
I feel since my husband died in March that small things don’t bother me and in many cases I don’t care. My only thoughts are of my children and raising them as I should. I have suffered a horrific loss and I miss him every minute of every day. How can small things every measure up to that?
Amie
mynewnormal.blog.com
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