Grief is like a seesaw….
Not only do we suffer the ups and downs of bereavement, we also have to find various balances…
- Balance of coping with letting our emotions out and losing control emotionally
- Balance of remembering and not letting go.
- Balance of not forgetting the past but learning to look to the future.
- Balance of being grateful for having loved with the anger at losing the love of your life.
- Balance of crying with pain and smiling to show that life goes on.
- Balance of honouring the memory and allowing ourselves to feel love again.
There are many other balances like talking to friends but understanding that you cannot talk endlessly…the reason I talk about balance is that there will be times when the balance is not right…that is ok, as long as you learn to recognise it or have 
friends that can help you regain that balance.
In fact when you think of all the emotional issues that you are trying to balance it is no wonder that one will occasionally become unbalanced. Just like the seesaw you need to either push yourself back up or release some weight of worry. However, just like a seesaw for each low remember there will be another high….
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1 opinion for Grief is like a seesaw….
Beth Waddel
Dec 13, 2007 at 1:35 pm
anna,
balance, yes. It’s so challenging to find balance right now in “this season” in particular.
Seems that any “sad thoughts” “loss thoughts” are a “buzz kill” (according to my 20 something friends)
I am usually NUMBER ONE in finding blessings in the most dire of circumstances, but right now, I wish to have an outlet for not being positive,but allowing the grief to wash over me, to share those grief feelings with others, to be real with the seesaw…blessings, yes, but balanced with loss.
Thank you for such a great site.
Beth
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