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Facing Family at Thanksgiving

by anna on November 21st, 2007

The holidays are a wonderful time for family, but when someone is missing forever then the emotional drain on coping with their absence can be very high. So here are some tips from someone who is learning to cope with   family gatherings

F = Families may change in who is present but family remain a loving bond to ease the pain.

A = Allow yourself to talk about them, relive memories so that they are part of the day.

M= Mend bridges - often when a death happens and people cope with the grief differently, quarrels can occur…if they have with you, use this time of year to mend those fences before it is too late.

I = Involve yourself. Try not to sit on the outside. Maybe offer to create some games, cook the meal..whatever your strength is, so that you are involved at the centre of the activities. That way you will have a focus, a meaning for the day…

L =Live these moments to the full, they are special times as they create those memories that live forever…don’t waste the chance to bring joy to others. After all we know how quickly these times can be taken away from us!

Y =You shall remember this old Anna adage! You are allowed to laugh and enjoy people’s company….don’t feel guilty for living….

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