Death brings a chance to think about life
When you lose someone, it is a chance to think about your view on life. Oprah Winfrey has a wonderful quote
“The whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you were intended to be.”
I have learned that bereavement can help you become that complete person. It is during the hard times that you learn more about yourself and more about what is important to you as a person. I think a loved one dying can help you evolve into that complete person. Losing someone can help you in the following ways
- Make you think what is important to you and spend more time doing those things.
- Loss shows you the value of the relationships and how investing in them is so important.
- Having strong feelings makes you more empathetic to others feelings
- Love without hurt is wonderful, but love with hurt allows you to value the good things in life even more.
- A complete person has felt the wonder of life and the downsides. A complete person uses the experiences for the better and takes the learnings to improve their value to the world.
What do you think, can you be a complete person without hurt? Do you believe that hurt has made you a better person?
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2 opinions for Death brings a chance to think about life
Dr Beth Waddel
Feb 18, 2008 at 9:00 pm
wow, it’s nice to be “home.”
I had the honor of spending the last week with a dear friend and his dying father. We traveled to the place where his father is well tended too and had the opportunity to say “goodbye, rest well.”
His father is a wonderful man. He’s almost 90 and has lived an amazing life. He was a loving father, a POW during WW2 and took great care of my friend’s mother as she died from Parkinson’s disease…a task which took tremendous energy, love and spirit.
As we spent time with this loving man, I felt humbled. There was a part of me that wanted to scream, how could you be grateful for your life when you suffered so much, but I had to stop and realize what I was defining as suffering was for him, a time of loving, caring, and challenge.
I whine mightily when I have a pain, a cold, a bit of discomfort. Here was this gallant man struggling for breath, unable to move freely, unable to control simple bodily functions: yet, he has a dignity I would wish to have.
Although for many the trip of the last week could be described as tedious, I found it humbling and a lesson in courage, bravery, and human dignity.
Ah, may I take these lessons into my heart and into my life.
Thank you, yet again, Anna, for this wonderful forum.
Beth
anna
Feb 22, 2008 at 10:32 am
Beth that so brings back memories of Dad who died of dementia. That was some of the worst memories yet the happiest times. I suddenly saw Dad as a person with frailties, not just my dad. I loved him so much and that time watching him die was the hardest thing yet the most emotional and lovely time I ever spent with him. Thank you so much for sharing such wonderful words
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