Children need the truth
A friend of mine lost her husband only a few weeks ago, it was a tragic event especially as they had 3 lovely children all under the age of 8. She couldn’t face telling the children, when she tried she knew they didn’t really understand. She wrote to me and said that I should share her thoughts on what you need to consider.
- Children need you to be honest.
- Don’t put it off - they will sense that something is wrong they need the truth.
- It is not about you, it is about them. It may be hard to do but they need you to put them first and talk to them.
- Remember that it isn’t until after the age of about 6 that they will probably understand, but it is still important to tell them.
- Repeat as often as is needed.
- Let them share their feelings - drawing, talking, crying.
- Allow friends to help. You will need time to grieve - don’t be proud, allow friends, family to take the children for a treat. You are not superhuman, you cannot do it all.
I know that she will survive, she is one of the bravest people that I know. She is surronded by love and in her children - who mean that her husband lives on…..
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