Changes in Life - It is all about questions not answers
We have suffered a heart wrenching change in our life..loss has to be one of the most difficult emotions- even when it is the loss of a relationship rather than an actual person. Change is unsettling, the nature of the word means that it is altering something in our lives. Change is not something that feels comfortable.
But it is also something that we cannot stop…it happens just like the seasons, we are approaching fall and the leaves start to shed…it is nature, it is the circle of life. It is natures way of balancing the world.
In order to cope with change, the best way is not to linger on finding out answers. Even if you had answers it would not change the grief, the heartache, the loss…..it would only then send you into trying to understanding it!
Instead look at change as a question….
A= Ask yourself “What legacy do I want to create with my precious moments on earth?” …then set out to create a legacy your lost love would have been proud of….
S = Seek ideas for the future..what could you now have a go at, or do that you couldn’t do before?
K = Keep asking how the change has improved you as a person, how much stronger you are, how you are more independent, empathetic, valuing of life…value that change.
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12 opinions for Changes in Life - It is all about questions not answers
Caryn
Oct 9, 2007 at 10:07 am
We’ve had a ton of changes this year. 1 year ago we were living in Scotland and just found out we were having a baby. We’ve moved, taken new jobs and our little one is 3 months old and such a joy but our lives are so different but we are so happy! Talk about changes!
lace
Oct 9, 2007 at 6:04 pm
What a great way to look at change. How can I better myself and those around me.
Lindley
Oct 9, 2007 at 9:43 pm
I think it is also important when moving on with change to figure out a way to Remember (and not Dwell) but still surge ahead.
Jo
Oct 9, 2007 at 10:41 pm
ASK… that is something I will have to remember. I always try to find ways to make each day memorable and better than the last. I think I will remember this from now on as well. Thank you.
GP
Oct 10, 2007 at 9:15 am
Great stuff to pass on to my mom.. daddy went to be with G-d this summer and she IS carrying on his legacy. He left a slew of memorabilia to the Leo Baeck Lodge in NY from the Holocause and she’s now volunteering there taking up his place there.
She’s not yet at the “K” place … :)
thanx i’ll send this to her
GP in montana
tanyetta
Oct 10, 2007 at 11:38 am
this really made me think. thank you for posting this.
Amie
Oct 10, 2007 at 3:14 pm
Great thoughts. I have noticed differences in me since I lost my husband. I don’t have time for other people’s petty problems. I don’t have time for my own petty problems. Things that normally would have set me off just don’t bother me anymore. I guess I have a priceless perspective. The absolute worse thing that could have happened (short of something happening to one of my children) happened to me. Bring it on, I can deal with it, no one can hurt me more.
Amie
anna
Oct 10, 2007 at 8:56 pm
Thank you for all your comments…I find them so uplifting and if my posts help in anyway then you are helping me with my life changes. I will leave the comments open until tomorrow night and then put the names in a hat to draw the winner of the prize..I hope it brings some sunshine to your life
Sara
Oct 11, 2007 at 10:32 am
Love your outlook on dealing with change! I’ll definitely be keeping this post handy to refer back to again and again! Thanks for the chance to win!
Gayla McCord
Oct 11, 2007 at 11:35 am
Wow, makes you really stop and think. I’m going to share this with some relatives I think can use the little lift.
Richelle F
Oct 12, 2007 at 12:29 pm
Those are good thoughts. I’m not too great at dealing with change, It really does help to think about what we are learning and getting out of what happens to us.
PaM
Nov 4, 2007 at 11:17 pm
ASK - very good tool for anyone to use. The more loss I have experienced in my life, the less stressed I get with change.
I can see that you have touched many people with this post. Good for you, good for them. When life becomes a win-win situation, that is beauty!
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