Widows Quest

September 4th, 2008

Why do we use the word loss?

I never understand why we say we have lost someone - we haven’t lost them, we know where they are? We have also not lost the

Love, or 
Memories

I know we feel the sense of loss, in the sense of physical sense and also lost of the chance of being with them in the future… Still […]

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July 26th, 2008

When words are not enough…

When

You don’t feel that you can breath anymore
Your heart aches so much that you are bent double with pain
You arrive at your first social event …alone
You shout that their dinner is ready…and there is no reply
You buy groceries for two…not remembering
You see the coffin….and it disappears through the tears
You are left alone for the first […]

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July 22nd, 2008

When Life Doesn’t Feel Worth the Pain

There are days when all of us wonder whether the pain is worth it, when we have no fight left in our body, when we cannot face waking up the next morning….
When that happens it is overwhelming and difficult to deal with, you know there are things in your life that “should” be making you […]

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July 21st, 2008

Getting back to nature to ease my grief

Yesterday I was determined not to feel sorry for myself, not to give in to those weekend feelings when I feel lonely and when my feelings seem out of control.
So I volunteered to help my best friend in her garden. Gosh it was hard work and after hours of weeding, digging, mowing, and clearing I […]

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July 18th, 2008

Weekends or even weak ends!

Am I the only one that struggles with weekends ? I think when you are grieving the weekends are often the hardest. During the week you can keep busy through work and then the weekends come…..and all the things that you used to do together, now don’t seem worthwhile.
Now I know that we should be […]

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July 9th, 2008

Loneliness - Even in a Crowd

Loneliness - Fact or Feeling was a post I wrote at the weekend. There were some wonderful comments and one comment from Leslie who said
” I declined today. I know she doesn’t understand but I find that sometimes I feel lonelier in a crowd than by myself”
Isn’t that so true! Loneliness is not about the […]

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July 2nd, 2008

Do you feel scared?

Grief affects in so many ways, it shakes your self confidence to the core. I find that I get scared about the future, of loneliness, of never feeling happy again. I find that social situations scare me, I don’t want to be around people that I don’t know.
I wonder why someone who used to be […]

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June 16th, 2008

Giving Up Seems So Easy….

Over the last couple of weeks as you know I have been struggling and yes, sometimes giving up “seems” easy. I would escape the pain, I would escape knowing how to turn my life around, I would escape having to find a way of rebuilding my life.
Yet is it so easy?
You think of people YOU […]

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June 14th, 2008

Why Do I Associate Grief, Loneliness with Failure

Failure is an emotive word and one thing that has been difficult to overcome - that feeling that I have failed in some way. Grief left me thinking that no matter what I did then I would fail, that it would be better to shy away from life then to go out and fail again.
It […]

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June 7th, 2008

Grief brings loneliness but I am never alone

I wrote a post a while ago called P.S I miss You and in response to a comment left this week I wrote
“I feel lonely but I never feel alone”
That may sound strange, however I always feel him around me. When something happens I know or imagine what he would say to pick me up. […]

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