A Star Doll for Comfort
I want to introduce you all to a wonderful artist that understands grief. She is a soul-sister of mine; you know when you meet someone, and you know you have known each other somewhere, sometime before? That is the way it was with Noreen. We immediately found our place with each other. I can’t say enough about this lovely woman, her heart, her skill, and her art.
She wrote me this today, and gave me permission to reprint it. She has a wonderful and tangible way to comfort yourself when grief is present in your life.
The Tribe of Healer Star Dolls
~for healing grief~
After my Dad died,
we were driving home from the celebration of his life.
I was thinking about my Dad,
and looked up.There in the night sky, was a very very bright star.
I was washed over with a wave of comfort.
I felt like it was my Dad, saying,
‘All’s well………’I told my Mom about this experience,
and she said that she has been watching the same star,
feeling the same comfort!Then, my best friend sent me a beautiful card.
It said that an Innuit legend
assures us that the night stars are really
our loved ones who have gone on,
and they are smiling back at us,
saying:
‘All’s well……..’Every evening I take a moment to step outside,
and catch a glimpse of that particularly comforting star,
and I know:
‘All’s well’.If you or someone that you know
needs to be comforted
then please tell them this story.I have had found a lot of healing in making the Star dolls.
I hope that they will be the source of comfort and joy
for other people…..
I hope they bring you joy.
hugs and blessings,
Noreen
Update: More from the talented Noreen Crone-Findlay at sister b5media blog - Sacred Dolls and Bears.
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7 opinions for A Star Doll for Comfort
Adelle Tilton » April Fools! No Jokes Here!!
Apr 2, 2006 at 8:29 pm
[…] My friend Noreen has created what I would call a comfort doll for people in grief. This is so perfect for widows, siblings, friends, anyone who has lost a loved one. No one understands, until they lose someone, how much something like this helps. Just to have it to hold makes you feel like you have a link to the real world. […]
washburn
May 23, 2006 at 11:46 am
looking for information and found it at this great site.
brenda
Jul 17, 2006 at 7:16 am
it makes me cry when i read things like this yet how come i have not found comfort in the death of my husband,mom,or my father. i just dont understand all this grief..
Mary Cataldo
Jul 18, 2006 at 2:21 am
5 months ago on this date, my 66 yr old husband died. We had been married for 46 years. I miss him dearly and draw on his strenths daily. He always accepted me and encouraged me to take college courses, gave me moral support,encouragement,love and understanding.
I now feel lonely, cannot watch intimacy on some TV programs, we loved music and many songs make me desolve into tears such as (It’s Time to Say Good Bye). We worked on numerous home projects which helps me face any home crisis with confidence and knowledge.
We discussed in the event of impending death that no extrodinaty measures by having a LIVING WILL. alive. I made the hardest decision of my life,which was to take him off the ventelator and let him join his family and the angels. I do not wish him back as he was so ill and his soul needed to be free. I imagine him flitting from one thing to another as he once had boundless energy, was so strong, and such an achiever with a wonderful sense of humor at times. I know he wants me to marry again or have a companion. He told me be happy, shed my tears but not lose cite of the future. I am seeking my purpose now on earth, working on letting go of hostilities, being more loving and letting my wonderful supportive neighbors and friends know how they have helped me in my sorrow and grief. I read constantly (a friend give me books and the followowing was a good read. (”The Purpose Driven Life” by Rick Warren) I have two wonderful SHIH Tzu dogs that keep me busy active and providing me with laughs and so much love. I have flower gardens,pots ,landscape and a small garden that are a source of therapy for me. I know how fortunate I am, but grief has a way of creeping back every day. I dry my tears and get on with it as I now am my own caretaker. I started a regimen of supplements after Sam died as I have Multiple Sclerosis. The stress took it’s toll and I have monthly IV’s of steroids that has kept me walking and pain free somedays. My Mom and Dad are dead. My MOM was another person in my life who was strong and I am thankful for her guidance through tough times.
There were times in my marriage when all was not well. I have two estranged children and two beautiful granddaughters that I cannot see, but
with meditation and sending prayers ,just maybe someday that will change too. I did not want you to think my life had always been that easy.Never give up or in.Seek out loved ones and friends. Allow yourself to grieve and not feel guilty. I read somewhere the grieving process can take 6 months to two years—somehow I think my grieving will not subside at 5 months. Have you ever attended Hospice support groups? Hospice provided me with many pamphlets that have been a great help. PLEASE KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE ON THE PATH TO HEALING AND WE ALL WILL MAKE IT WITH GUIDANCE, LOVE, FORGIVING OURSELVES FOR UNSAID OR HURTFUL DEEDS. SOMETIMES WRITING A DAILY,WEEKLY JOURNAL OF OUR FEELINGS HELP. WRITING A LETTER TO OUR LOVED ONE, SAYING ALL THE THINGS WE FEEL THAT WAS IMPORTANT AND THEN BURNING IT . WISHING YOU PEACE,MARY
brenda
Jul 18, 2006 at 7:24 am
thankyou mary for that wonderful story.. i am sure i will be ok in time .. but the sorrow and hurt will always be there.. i am a strong lady and always have been.. brenda
Candles
Nov 2, 2006 at 1:28 pm
garden of life supplements…
Great site! I’ll be back to check it out again. Thanks!…
Stacy Little
Sep 1, 2007 at 4:08 pm
Dear Friends ~ My name is Stacy Little ( 33 ) and I am from Walker, Mn. Town of 1,000. One year ago, I lost both my Fathers to cancer, leaving my Mother and StepMother widows. To honor my Fathers and to help my Mothers, I formed a small little group called ” The First Widow’s Club ” … we meet once a month, share a meal, offer grief resources, share experiences and celebrate the spouses taken, and left. I depend souly on the generosity of others to make this group possible… I would like to ask, if there are any products, books or resources you would be willing or able to donate to the First Widow’s Club? We usually have 15 or so ladies attend… Please think on it, and let me know your thoughts… Please also feel free to forward this to any organization or individual who would like to bless others with the gift of grief healing… God bless, and keep on being the inspiration others need”) Stacy Little First Widow’s Club Facilitator P O Box 1297 Walker, Mn 56484 218.547.1331
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